“Now it’s like this.”
I was at Wanderlust Festival here in Nashville a few years ago, where renowned yoga teacher and all-around inspirational badass Chelsey Korus was leading the group yoga portion. “Now it’s like this,” she kept saying over and over, weaving this beautiful mantra throughout the hour long practice, encouraging us to understand and embrace that the only real constant in life is change. Now, it’s like this…in a moment, it will be like something else. Of course I already knew this, but now to have the permission I needed to let it be what it is? Game changer. I’ve literally thought about this mantra just about every day since first hearing it, and the older I get the more I realize that perhaps truer words have never been spoken.
Here’s the deal. Impermanence is inescapable. It just is. Here in Tennessee, all you have to do is simply look outside and observe the changing seasons. It’s currently springtime, one of my favorites. I’m reminded that the old dies off and that new growth is just around the corner. That time makes this transformation inevitable. That change is inevitable. And just like in nature, your life is constantly shifting and moving, keeping you on your toes and teaching you extraordinary lessons…should you choose to pay attention.
For instance, you might find yourself in a place of warm, fuzzy comfort, only to be hit upside the head and have your entire world rocked by change. No matter what you do or say, you can’t stop this change from happening. How do you react? Do you resist? Do you hide? It’s like that moment in yoga class when you fiiinally make it through all the standing postures and get down to the floor with one thing on your mind…Savasana…but then your loving teacher (me!) leads you into 10 minutes of really freaking hard core work. You know what I’m talking about! Can you change the story in your head? “Um ok, so Savasana isn’t happening YET. I’m going to rock this core work and show it who’s boss. I am fierce. I am willing. I am capable. I embrace this moment because now it’s like this. Soon, it won’t be like this. Then, it will be like something else. But now, it’s like this.”
On the contrary, you may find yourself in a time of extreme discomfort, yearning for change to happen and to happen fast. How do you react? Do you resist? Do you hide? Once again, it’s the same in yoga, where we move from one pose to another. You may find yourself stuck in Chair Pose for far longer than you wish. Body trembling, sweat dripping down the face, internally cursing your teacher (again, me!) and swearing to yourself that if she tells you to “sit an inch lower” one more time, you’re out and that’s that. Can you change the story to look a little like this…”Yeah, this really sucks. But I’m here. Now it’s like this. I’m alive. I’m growing stronger. I’m connected to my breath. I’m connected to my body. I’m aware of my thoughts, but I am not my thoughts. And in a moment, it will be like something else. I embrace this Chair Pose because now it’s like this.”
When you resist change rather than trusting the process, you are setting yourself up to miss out. All of it…the good, the bad, and everything in between…is there to teach you and to help you grow into a bigger, better version of the amazing soul that you already are. It’s not easy, but guess what…it is what it is. It IS. And here are 5 tips to help you move a little more gracefully through these times:
- BREATHE. Take a beat. Breathe in deeply and know that you’re breathing in. Breathe out deeply and know that you’re breathing out. Repeat for a few rounds of breath.
- REPEAT CHELSEY’S MANTRA…”NOW IT’S LIKE THIS.” Remember that change is the only constant and that it won’t be like this forever.
- BE GRATEFUL. Find even the tiniest sense of gratitude for this shift. Even if you don’t fully understand it yet, be thankful for what’s yet to come.
- WRITE IT DOWN. Frustrated? Write it down. Angry? Write it down. Completely at a loss? Write it down. Get it all out. Then crumple up the paper and throw it away. Get it out of your system then move on in faith that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
- TRUST GOD AND TRUST THE PROCESS AND ITS TIMING. There are much bigger forces at work. Enough said.