Yesterday evening we celebrated the life and legacy of a friend gone way too soon. He certainly left a lasting impression on thousands of people in this town, as evidenced by the turnout and by the stories people told. He had a way of making everyone feel loved and important. This was his gift. He was everyone’s biggest cheerleader and, although he may have had a lot of women around him at most times (hehe), I don’t believe he ever had one single enemy.
I thought it quite fitting that in the guided journal I try to write in every morning, yesterday’s focus was on loss. I was prompted to think of something I recently lost and to provide two positive insights I gained from this experience. I’ll be brief, but I just wanted to share my thoughts.
“When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.” ~Dalai Lama
- Through this loss, I was reminded of the idea of impermanence. As spoken by the Greek philosopher Heraclitus, “Change is the only constant in life.” Nothing lasts forever, including life itself. I was reminded that we must live in the present moment and live to the absolute fullest. We can’t put things off until tomorrow because tomorrow may never come. Impermanence is difficult to deal with, but if we can come to peace with it, we can live much happier, present lives.
- I was so moved by hearing the stories of this friend that it literally just made me want to be a better person. I began to wonder about the stories people would tell of me. What would my legacy be? His legacy is one of love, kindness, generosity, honesty, and the list goes on and on. I want to model this in my own life and do more for others. I want to make people feel special just as he made me feel. Something that to him came so naturally, but to me? Well, there’s plenty room for improvement. And that is my intention moving forward.
Loss is never easy, especially when it comes to the loss of a loved one. We may never understand why these things happen, but I don’t think that we are meant to. At least not in this realm. All we can do is to focus on the lessons learned and hope to use it for the greater good here on Earth. So that’s what I will do.